The internet has sided with a father who went to his ex-wife’s house to check on his daughter after receiving a disturbing text message from her.
A father who uses the username u/aitadiag ask the question for readers of Reddit’s “AmITheA**hole” forum, “AITA for showing up at my ex’s house after our daughter sent me a disturbing message?” Since being posted, the post has received 8,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments.
After divorcing when their daughter was two, the Redditor and his wife shared custody 50/50. Since then, her ex has remarried and they have children together. Her new husband has a 13-year-old son, the same age as the daughter in the original poster (OP).
There were more than 630,000 divorces in the United States in 2020, according to the CDC.
OP had bought his daughter a phone so she could keep in touch with her parents. He explains that she texts him a lot, especially when she stays with her mother, to keep up to date with her cats.
“I dropped her off at school on Monday, and her mom picked her up as usual. She texted me throughout school, and once again when she was picked up, but I didn’t hear from her again that day. It was strange, she always texts me before bed – but I brushed it off, she’s growing up. One day she’ll stop texting me. ‘texting her goodnight,’ he wrote.
The next day, he received no message from his daughter. He texts his ex-wife for an explanation. After school was over, he got a text from his daughter reading “daddy help” and nothing more.
He tries to call and text his ex with no response, so he heads to her house. Wondering what’s going on, his daughter rushes off with her stepdad to wonder why he was at their house knowing it’s their week.
After an argument broke out between OP and the stepdad, OP realized that they were in “electronic detox” and no one could use their devices.
“My daughter got mad on Monday night and her stepbrother made fun of her, which continued until the next day at school. She snuck on her phone when she got home from school. home to text me, but she got caught and locked him away.” he said.
When her ex returned home, she agreed with her new husband that he shouldn’t have come despite receiving strange text messages. OP explained how he owns the phone and his daughter should be able to contact him. He took his daughter home because she didn’t want to be there anymore.
He ended with, “Obviously they don’t communicate because they’re still in rehab, but my parents have since agreed with her, saying she’s the other parent and if anything happens to her , I would have been told, I have to trust his judgement.”
IATA supporters were quick to defend the PO for its actions,
“NTA. You literally got a text that says ‘dad help’. Checking in person was exactly what a dad is supposed to do in this situation IMHO,” u/Decent_Sky_9880 received the highest comment with more of 18,000 positive votes.
U/Sk111W wrote: “NTA The only acceptable reaction to receiving an out of the blue ‘Daddy Help’ text is to immediately drop whatever you’re doing to go where she is, especially when you’ve tried to reach his other parent. but I have not heard back.”
“NTA. ‘Daddy help’ – they’re lucky you didn’t call the police. They were supposed to warn you that your daughter will be out of communication for a few days,” u/SatelliteBeach123 exclaimed. “When you’re used to hearing from her every day, it would raise a major red flag if she suddenly stopped. That one text you received would have sent me flying all the way to their house!”
“NTA – you didn’t overreact. They should have told you what they were doing with ‘detox’ which to me seems incredibly stupid. Especially for a 13 year old girl,” said declared u/mizfit0416.