Members of a popular internet forum have been left weary after a man described how his girlfriend went behind his back to bring his sister into his house.
In a viral Reddit post posted to r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/simpleguyy6 (otherwise known as the original poster, or OP) was adamant that he didn’t want his partner’s 28-year-old sister alive. with him, and explained how it almost happened anyway before he quickly intervened.
Entitled, “[Am I the a**hole] for not allowing my girlfriend’s sister to move in and change the locks?”, the viral Publish received nearly 11,000 votes and 1,600 comments in the past 9 hours.
Writing that his girlfriend is getting a master’s degree and he’s paying the “lion’s share” of the couple’s household expenses, the original poster said the couple still communicated at a high level, until recently.
After his girlfriend’s sister, who has two children and has been married and divorced twice, broke up with her current boyfriend, it was proposed that she and her children move into the house in the original poster.
“We got a call saying they were breaking up and she had nowhere to go. She wasn’t working and had no money for her rent,” he wrote. “[My girlfriend] asked me if we could accommodate them. I answered no. His sister was a leech.”
Following the rejection, the original poster said he had offered to buy food for his girlfriend’s sister and found several organizations that would be willing to help the mother of two. However, when the original poster was at work, he saw the 28-year-old and her children move their belongings around the house through her doorbell camera.
“I called my girlfriend and immediately asked her what was going on. She said [her sister] needed a place to go for a few hours while her ex moved out,” he wrote. “I asked how she got into the house as I locked it. [She] says she did [her sister] a few months ago in case she needed to come in.”
“I was furious,” he continued. “I decided today to change the locks and get a new access code to the garage. [My girlfriend] is upset. But I told her it was going to be like this until her sister found a place.”
“I can’t believe I won’t come home and find 2 kids and a wife living in my house,” he added.
Providing financial support to a spouse or a family member of a partner can strain a relationship.
In one New York Times advice column published in 2019, an unnamed woman said she and her husband supplemented her struggling sister-in-law’s income with a “hefty monthly payment”, which the couple also shared.
Despite her desire to help a family member in need, the woman revealed that the hope of keeping her sister-in-law’s finances afloat weighed heavily on her.
“I’m starting to blame myself!” she said The New York Times. “My husband agrees that I don’t have to help his sister, but he says married people should share all the obligations.”
“I’m torn between wanting to be generous and resenting every penny I give her,” she added.
Complaints about support for family members are common on the internet, with numerous threads and Reddit posts detailing refusals to support oppressed in-laws and inheritance funds sought.
In many cases, internet posters expressing their annoyance at having to pay for loved ones have been backed by commenters, just as the original poster was throughout the comments section of its viral post on Reddit.
In the post’s top comment, which received nearly 12,500 votes, Redditor u/v2den said u/simpleguyy6 was justified in changing his locks and warned that his girlfriend’s actions could be indicative of events at to come.
“[Not the a**hole] and [in my opinion]you need to seriously think about your relationship,” they commented. “The fact that she went behind your back is a major red flag.”
“I think you need to reevaluate if you can trust [your girlfriend]…she has greatly overstepped the bounds by making her sister a wrench without your permission,” Redditor u/ColdstreamCapple added, in a comment that received over 4,000 votes.
Amid a sea of comments encouraging the original poster to reconsider their relationship, a Redditor said OP was not financially responsible for his girlfriend’s sister and assured he wouldn’t have had to. act if its limits had been respected.
“She’s not your sister and you made your position clear from the start,” u/SuperVillain85 wrote. “The changing the locks part wouldn’t be necessary if everyone else involved had proven themselves to be trustworthy.”
Newsweek contacted u/simpleguyy6 for comment.